Speaking of Singleness Without Sounding Pathetic

“Our look was as if two lovers, or deadly enemies, met unexpectedly on a an overgrown path when each had been thinking of something else: a clearing blow to the gut. It was also a bright blow to the brain, or a sudden beating of brains, with all the charge and intimate grate of rubbed balloons. It emptied our lungs. It felled the forest, moved the fields, and drained the pond; the world dismantled and tumbled into that black hole of eyes. If you and I looked at each other that way, our skulls would split and drop to out shoulders. But we don't. We keep our skulls.”

-Annie Dilliard, Living Like Weasels

When folks talk about relationships and singleness, it typically sounds pathetic (Sorry). Like that one guy on Facebook that asked all the girls he knew what they were looking for in a man and what kind of wedding ring they want (GAG!) (Again Sorry). Single life is actually pretty cool.

I was born single, though I have not always been that way, I was un-single before.

What I disliked most about attached-ness was the lack of expectancy. Y'know what I'm talking about? That pre-roller coaster drop sensation, that “let's just keep driving and never look back” feeling, like ANYTHING can happen (Don't you love that phrase?).

In my experience anything happening is a good thing.

Wow, I was just convicted. Do I hold more excitement in my heart for meeting the lover of my life than I do for the lover of my soul. Ouch, that stung.

Deep, deep in me there's this desire to be like Moses, to be captivated by the Awesome that is God but somehow that expectancy wanes in the day-to-day. I need—we all need—a regular jolt of expectancy in our sensory diet—only Jesus can do it.

So I pray that over you and myself: that we would find our spouses on this earth (or love them better), and that we would be espoused to the heavenlys , that we would carefully watch the skies for activity.

Because...Anything Can Happen.

“This is what I mean, brothers: the appointed time has grown very short. From now on, let those who have wives live as though they had none, and those who mourn as though they were not mourning, and those who rejoice as though they were not rejoicing, and those who buy as though they had no goods,and those who deal with the world as though they had no dealings with it. For the present form of this world is passing away. “

-1 Corinthians 7:29-31

In Him,

Jean-Marc